Monday, August 1, 2011
Forgiveness Quote
"Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different." God that's beautiful and so very simple :)
Thursday, June 23, 2011
Thursday, February 3, 2011
First's and Last's
I need to get some thoughts on paper. They have been swirling around my mind for days and they won't stop until I put them into sentences and sort them all out...so here goes.
I've been helping a very good friend prepare herself for her first sexual encounter and it has made me think about mine of course...not in a bad way, but in a "if I could do it all over again what would I do" way. It made me realize that I was very responsible and methodical in how it happened. I had made up my mind that it was going to be done. I had waited long enough to experience what I had dreamed about...what every normal woman dreams about. I wasn't looking for love. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend. I was looking for someone willing to teach me...be gentle with me...and to be my sexual partner.
I don't think I lead Rett astray in what I was looking for in a partner. I don't think that I made any promises or asked for any from him. I think I was a little ahead of my time, but really this is the way that many women now prefer their relationships...with no strings. They call them f_ck friends for lack of a better term, or hook-ups.
Move forward 26 years and really that's what I was looking for when I turned 50 and had the best time of my life. I wasn't looking for another husband or a boyfriend. I just wanted to find some'one' who was pursuing my same interest. I wanted to meet people who could be entertaining, intelligent, honest and wanted to have some fun...no strings attached. I was so tired of strings and responsibility.
There was absolutely nothing wrong with the way I approached my first encounter or my last. The rules are and were simple...entertaining, intelligent and honest fun.
That's the advice I will give my friend. Have fun, be honest and open about who you are and what you want. Expect nothing and give only what you are willing to lose.
I've been helping a very good friend prepare herself for her first sexual encounter and it has made me think about mine of course...not in a bad way, but in a "if I could do it all over again what would I do" way. It made me realize that I was very responsible and methodical in how it happened. I had made up my mind that it was going to be done. I had waited long enough to experience what I had dreamed about...what every normal woman dreams about. I wasn't looking for love. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend. I was looking for someone willing to teach me...be gentle with me...and to be my sexual partner.
I don't think I lead Rett astray in what I was looking for in a partner. I don't think that I made any promises or asked for any from him. I think I was a little ahead of my time, but really this is the way that many women now prefer their relationships...with no strings. They call them f_ck friends for lack of a better term, or hook-ups.
Move forward 26 years and really that's what I was looking for when I turned 50 and had the best time of my life. I wasn't looking for another husband or a boyfriend. I just wanted to find some'one' who was pursuing my same interest. I wanted to meet people who could be entertaining, intelligent, honest and wanted to have some fun...no strings attached. I was so tired of strings and responsibility.
There was absolutely nothing wrong with the way I approached my first encounter or my last. The rules are and were simple...entertaining, intelligent and honest fun.
That's the advice I will give my friend. Have fun, be honest and open about who you are and what you want. Expect nothing and give only what you are willing to lose.
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